Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Please forgive me.
I'm not sure if I have wronged you but the Jewish New Year is coming and I'm cleaning out my guilty conscience and one way to do that is to ask for forgiveness.
So please forgive me.
Perhaps I wasted your time with a blog post that did not inspire you.
Perhaps I wrote a blog post that did inspire you and you feel slightly guilty for not moving on that inspiration.
Perhaps I have done nothing wrong... but if I did, please forgive me.
There is something about forgiveness that enables us to let go of feeling badly. It's even better to be forgiving.
Years ago, I used to walk around with anger. Colleagues frustrated me. Friends hurt me. Strangers were rude. Whatever the case, I focused too long on the issue, and not long enough on the letting go and forgiving part. Even when they didn't know they did anything wrong - I would hold onto it. Sadly.
Hanging on to anger and hurt is not healthy. And frankly, it only attracts more anger and hurt, in my opinion. I see too many people hung up on life's unfairness and been-done-wrongness that they let it rule their lives. "Someone hurt me, so I did not succeed because they made me feel badly about myself. It's their fault!" "Someone wronged me and so I am focusing my energy on wronging them back."
Whatever the case, now is the time to forgive. Let it go. Move on. Move up. Find your dream. Live your dream. Don't let anything, anyone, guilt or anger stand in your way.
There's a Jewish tradition to ask for forgiveness before the New Year so that we can start the year with a clean slate.
So I am asking you for forgiveness.
I am also asking you to ask your friends, family and colleagues for forgiveness.
And most importantly, I am humbly asking you to forgive yourself for anything you might have done to hurt yourself.
And if I'm wrong and I have done nothing wrong, or you have done nothing wrong, then please forgive me. I am sorry.
Forgiveness. It's a project.